Is my coach favoriting me or does he see potential?

I’d guess he sees potential.

Now, I’m not sure where you live(which alters the league system), but in Estonia, we have age groups, not middle school, high school etc. Right now I play U16(16 or younger, with some criterias), but I’ve been selected to play in U18 sometimes. And a couple of times I was actually playing a lot, not just being an end-of-the-bench emergency option. That gave me confidence and helped me to transform from that player that freezes when I get the ball, to the joint-first scoring option role. There were guys on our team who were towering over me and were more skilled as well. I initially thought that the U18 coach was just favoring me because I got along really well with him(sadly, he doesn’t coach our age group anymore, but we have an awesome new coach), but then came the sudden realisation: we went to a tournamentwith a couple of additional players, because it was a 2000 tournament, our club’s 2000 pool was small and we had just merged with another team. I practically didn’t play. I got mad, but then I sat back and realised that the additional players were all borderline youth NT players. Afterwards I haven’t sadly had that oppurtunity because I was injured for a couple of months.

That’s my story. To me, the circumstances seem quite the same. So I’d guess, based on my personal experience(this and a couple of other stories) as a player, he sees you got what the team needs. Actually I just realised: Coach played me because I never gave up on a play. I was relentlessly after every loose ball and rebound. They needed that and so coach played me. The players that were better than me were new to playing center, so most of them didn’t exactly know what to do. I had played mostly center and still do sometimes(even though I’m 15 and 6′1/185cm, I’m the second tallest on our U16 team) and my expertise was rebounding. The others were mainly shooters/dribblers, but they didn’t have a pure rebounder.

You’re thinking too hard about this.

Your opinion of the girls on the bench is just that, your opinion, and obviously not one the coach shares with you. So ditch it. Thinking that you’re somehow NOT your coach’s best option, even in the face of evidence that you ARE, is self-defeating.

Play in the moment, focus on the floor and not the sideline, give 110%, support your teammates while on the bench, and don’t second-guess your coach. See yourself the way Lisa Leslie or Cynthia Cooper or Elena Della Donne saw themselves on the floor. Know your role and know that you can change the game when you do your job.

Well, my expierence is, I have always been the best player on the field, since my sophomore year being 6′3 225 and just bullying kids, I have learned that if you’re a coaches favorite, there is kids better than you on the bench. You’re his favorite probably because of your work ethic. But if he sees potential in you , he will be the biggest dick to you ever. I knew that because the head coach would be screaming at me for hitting the qb at practice throw me off the field but he always told me all 4 years because he saw potential in me and needed me to be more disciplined than any other player on the team. So you are probably just his favorite

Many coaches have a way of subbing. You say there are girls ‘better’ than you, but maybe your coach doesn’t see that. You might be the most hardworking player on the team. You might help other players play better.

Be happy that your getting this playing time and work as hard as you can during the minutes you get. If it is really bothering you, then talk it over with your coach.

I think you should keep working hard and do what your coach tells you. Look at Andre Iguadala that plays for Golden State, I would take him over Harrison Barnes all day, but who started? There are reasons your coach is doing what he’s doing. If you see him leave you in when he should’ve made an adjustment ask him why he did that. This will also help you learn what to do in the event his plan didn’t work. Also, I wouldn’t spend too much time on who’s better. Is Dennis Rodman better? Is Tony Allen better? I mean, it’s a subjective statement. Is there a play that you execute better? Is there a player you can guard better? These are the questions you should ask. Maybe you are his favorite player. Maybe he does have an unrealistic image or expectations of you, but that shouldn’t matter. You should try your best to do what your asked. Maybe that’s it. You know how many absolutely phenomenal players I’ve met and played with that did not do what the coach asked? A lot. It’s a downward spiral too, coach gets mad at them, they get mad at coach, and on and on. I may have been one of those players looking back, but the important thing is to do your job. Also, asking him will help, I can’t believe how much I had underestimated communication in my career.